No, you don't have a war. I don't have a personal war either, that doesn't mean that normal miserable things don't happen to me. We have human tragedy, but we don't have people/society actively trying to prevent us from being happy/achieving success. We were born basically neutrotypical, white, comfortably well-off, with competant parents. There's nothing wrong with that, but we have to be aware of how we benefit from the society being set up this way, and do our best to support the people who are 'on the other side' as it were.