Evil twin of bossyness

so the evil twin recons we should do some dealing, which I am notoriously crap at but whatever and she says I hafe to work out what I need for a safe space for myself if emotions get too spun out in the dealing process so I gues I need to wor out what i would like, I thnk the point of a safe space is to calm and centre and ground myself, make me feel like I matter, like im worth something, so I gues I need to take all that into acount.

clacton obviously (shhh, dont tell anyone that Superamber has a teddy bear!)
My red blanket
some fiction to read
a PHL book to just read
A PHL book to read and study
A Tidy room
earplugs
clean clothes/clean pjs
music. tori/ country
list of buffy episodes that have storylines that contain lots of giles
kids cartoons/tv
bath bombs
bubble bath
mosteriser
deep hair conditioner
DVDs I havent seen (seriously Ive got loads)
some healthy food I like

aaaand she said I have to work out what stuff I need to deal with (seriously she will come up with twenty thousand more things)

so um,
The never feeling good enough thing
the sucsess falure double bind
being probably infertile
my food issues
conecting to my emotions
feeling that i have to do worthy stuff to be worth anything
issues around my mother.
learning to deal with my anger.